How to Be Liked Instantly Smile - the most convincing sign of work success

Forget expensive suits, flashy cars and mobiles – looking happy is more than enough to put you miles ahead in business world. 

That's the conclusion of a new UK research. 

According to the study, 25percent of people believe that appearing happy and content are the biggest measures of success at work, and good looks, charm or hidden talent are considered the least important qualities needed to be a successful entrepreneur, reports The Daily Express . 

The study found that Britons aged 18 to 24 most admired ever-smiling Virgin boss Richard Branson (40 per cent), followed by dour business tycoon Alan Sugar (13 per cent), according to loyalty scheme Nectar Business research. 

Next on the list was chef Jamie Oliver (9 per cent) and Dragons' Den panellistPeter Jones (8 per cent) 

Almost one in ten of people admired former model Katie Price, the study found. 

Tim Birchinall, head of Nectar ­Business, said: "Most people aspire to enjoy what they do at work. 

"It's interesting so many see being happy and contented as the biggest measure of business success above other more material indicators."

One energised person can change the vibes of an entire room. We all run away from enervators, preferring the breath of life an energiser can infuse in the world around!

AMONGST all around, you will notice two kinds of people, the energisers and the enervators. You feel automatically drawn towards the former, while even the thought of the latter tires you! All of us like to avoid those who are a drain on our energy. Listless people with melancholic thoughts, singularly lacking in energy or life force. These are the names you avoid on your cellphone and in your social engagements diary. They are a drain on your resources and after having met them, you feel you have lost, rather than gained anything.

On the other hand, have you noticed how one person bounding with energy can change the vibes of an entire room? All eyes are drawn towards someone who is full of dynamic ideas and a spirit that strives to do newer things, achieve greater heights. There is no time for depression here because all thoughts are taken up with present action and the thought of further action. You feel energised just meeting such a person and get carried away on a wave of goodwill and the fervour to do something. These are the people who seem to carry the world forward and most of the time you will find those at the top in all fields are the ones blessed with loads of energy. Remember the way Indira Gandhi walked, with a spring in her step? Sonia Gandhi walks with the same spring, as does Rahul Gandhi and most of the world leaders.

There’s a buzz around such people, their minds are whirring with ideas that spill over and inspire others. The secret to movement is creating energy. Any vehicle, before it moves, floats or flies, has to necessarily create a spurt of energy that propels it forth. In order to fly, a bird creates energy by flapping its wings and taking a shot leap; to pounce on its prey, even a lion needs to regroup its energies and focus them on that one deadly leap. So why then should it be any different for us? Those of us whose minds buzz and whirr with ideas are bound to take flight sooner than those who lack the requisite buzz. It is important to create an energy field around anything we do, a vital Life Force — be it prayer, work, charity, or even just plain good old fun. The only time to relax, go quiet and meditate is when you need to recoup your energy sources, think through and give them the right direction.

When given a project at work, for the required period of time, make it your main focus, work up a lot of energy and enthusiasm around it, whip your co-workers into a frenzy of creative energy and action. Involve everybody in the creative force, explore a few extra ideas, consult more people than you need to, listen a bit more carefully, discuss a little more intensely. Become attuned to all the energy that starts building around the project, become one with it and go with the flow. Not only does your work become more pleasurable but it gives you back the energy you gave it, manifold!

What is the idea of doing a project as well as the next person does it? You should not rest easy till you have energised every last atom in your body and let your creative juices flow to ensure that what you added to the work is something nobody else could have given it. A simple task like cooking may bore you; how about bringing a new energy to it by looking up a few extra recipes, bringing in new elements, mixing ingredients, experimenting? The new energy you bring to the task not just makes it interesting for you but also leads to a newer, more exciting dish for your table.

Spur yourself on by throwing self-challenges. Gardening? Why just limit yourself to watering plants and weeding out overgrowth? Up the antenna and challenge your creativity to create a special corner in your garden. Landscape it, dedicate an area to a special kind of a plant you like, coax the plants to grow the way you want them to. Become one with the creative energy of nature and see where the flow takes you.

Feng shui rides on the principle that everything around us is energy and there is a constant flow and exchange of energy between us and all around. So Feng Shui teaches us ways of creating happy energy in all things around us, so that we gain from that energy flow or qi. The Greek technical term for qi, coined by Aristotle, is energeia, loosely translated as something “being at work”. French philosopher Henri Bergsen’s term for the “vital impetus” was Elan vital. In Vedantic philosophy, the Sanskrit term for Prana as the vital, lifesustaining force of living beings, is comparable to the Chinese Qi.

In literature, Romantic poets have yearned to be a part of the process of Nature, looking upon the creative life process as something apart from them. George Bernard Shaw too spoke of a “Life Force” that directs evolution toward ultimate perfection by trial and error. As you give free rein to your energy and whip up the force of a tornado or the deadly focus of a whirlpool, no matter how small you consider a task, you will witness the chaos that precedes creation, the driving force of progress, of life, of development — the only way to move ahead and avoid stagnation. And you would have internalised it. And become an energiser!

It's been said that everyone can light up a room -- some when they enter, and others when they leave. Which type of person are you? Have you ever wondered why certain people can walk into a room and light up the atmosphere with their presence? Or why when certain individuals speak, their listeners become spellbound, while someone else talking about the same subject is met with yawns? If you want to be the kind of person whom others instantly like, trust and listen to, you need to understand some of the keys to communication, magnetism and listening.

Three Levels of Communication Every time you communicate with someone, you are sending three distinct messages. They are:

Verbal Messages: the words you say

Paraverbal Messages: the way you say your words

Nonverbal Messages: your body language

It doesn't matter whether you are communicating in a business or personal setting, these three communication factors are always present. The better you manage each, the more likely that people will be drawn to you.

Verbal Messages

The exact words you use will determine how someone reacts to you. Words that are critical, blaming, judgmental or accusatory turn people off and tend to create a negative mindset in the listeners. To draw people toward you, use uplifting language that is succinct, clear and truthful. The more positive your words are, the more people will like being around you.

Paraverbal Messages

How you say your words -- your tone, pitch and pacing -- sends a clear message to people, regardless of the actual words. In fact, research shows that paraverbal messages account for approximately 38 percent of what is communicated to someone. In other words, your feelings and how you say something can change the meaning of your words. Therefore, monitor your feelings as you talk to others. In general, when people are angry or excited, they tend to speak faster and with a higher pitch. When bored or feeling depressed, people tend to speak very slowly and monotonous. When feeling defensive, people tend to speak abruptly. Even more important, listeners believe your paraverbal messages more than your verbal ones.

Nonverbal Messages

Your nonverbal messages include your posture, gestures, facial expressions and spatial distance. These subtle but powerful messages account for 55 percent of your communication, so they have the ability to either draw people toward you or repel them from you. When you speak and have a facial expression that is filled with enthusiasm, energy and approval for the other person, he or she will feel compelled to listen to you. Additionally, when your posture and gestures reflect inclusion, such as facing someone directly, making sustained eye contact and keeping the upper body "open" without crossed arms, you create a feeling of unity.

Have a Magnetic Presence

In addition to being adept at verbal, paraverbal and non-verbal communication, people who are liked instantly tend to possess a magnetism so potent that they can effortlessly make a dynamic impact. The fact is that nothing reveals more about you to others than your vibratory frequency that radiates from your being.

We each have a magnetic field that draws us to the people, experiences and things that mirror our state of consciousness -- our thoughts, perceptions, opinions and beliefs. This relates to the old saying that we become what we think about most. Realize that everyone is creating their outcomes in their life, either consciously or unconsciously.

To improve your magnetism so that you can draw people toward you, you need to recognize the inherent talents you have that make you unique. This helps you better understand your purpose in life, which is necessary for any kind of success.

With your purpose firmly in place, you can begin to visualize the perfect scenario -- how you want people to react when they are with you. Visualization is key to manifesting the desired outcome in your life. Once you have the image clear in your mind, meditate on it. Meditation enables you tap into your authentic self. At that point, your magnetism instantly improves.

Listen to Learn

Finally, to be instantly liked, it's vital that you listen to others. Constantly talking about yourself, interrupting when people are talking and seeming uninterested in the other person with your gaze wandering will cause people to avoid you. Remember that most people (whether a friend, family member, co-worker or even a dissatisfied customer) want nothing more than to be heard. That's why those people who are skilled listeners are often the most liked.

Realize that listening involves more than just hearing someone's words. True listening means that you are attempting to understand the other person, that you respect his or her thoughts even if they are different from your own, and that you are willing to see things from the other person's point of view (even if just for a moment). Yes, doing all this demands a high degree of mental focus on your part. But if you suspend judgment and listen with your heart, you can overcome many communication challenges and forge true friendships. So the next time you are listening to someone, resist the urge to interrupt. Don't listen with the intent to rebut someone's remarks. Rather, listen to get the whole story, reflect on their words and then formulate your response. The more you can thoughtfully listen, the more people will be willing to open up to you.

Make People Feel Special

Because most people enjoy talking about themselves, encourage them to do so. Find out the other person's interests, and make it a point to talk about those things. For example, if you're going to a party at a filmmaker's house, study up on filmmaking. Go see one or two of his or her movies, or at least Google the person to learn more about his or her projects. The bottom line is that most people like you when you make them feel special. And that's exactly what these communication, magnetism and listening techniques will enable you to do -- make others feel special and important. As Cavett Robert, founder of the National Speaker's Association, said, "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care." The more you show people you care about them, the more they will like you.