FORMER MCA PRESIDENT DATUK SERI ONG TEE KEAT HAS RECENTLY BROUGHT UP AGAIN THE DVD SCANDAL INVOLVING CURRENT PARTY PRESIDENT DATUK SERI DR CHUA SOI LEK.
Dr Chua Soi Lek and woman getting ready for annal sex why was he not arrested for anal sex bloody barisan musa hassan
The answer seems to be common sense. Ask anyone about whether having an affair affects marriage and they will likely say that infidelity is severely damaging. So what has been the view of family scientists and clinicians? On that note, Chua said that it was an individual’s right whether to accept him or otherwise. “If …Read more
Chua responded by saying that there should be no quarrel during the Chinese New Year as harmony in the family is the basis for success in any undertaking.
“Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new.” — Ursula K. LeGuin
If ever there was an emotional state that we idealize, it is love. We want nothing of its dark-belly underside, we demand that it always show only its shiniest side to us. We are, many of us, unprepared for the battles that the heart must be willing to carry on in the name of love. We more willingly dispose of the container and our promises of forever than have to sift through the stench of disappointment and hurts that are the products of love, as surely as are the moments of glorious connection.
Finding a point of balance between the opposing voices of love is in fact love’s purpose and maybe even where we find it’s meaning. Albert Ellis taught that, “The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.” Learning how to not give up on our lovers or ourselves when we fail to reflect the goodness we see in others or have in ourselves is the first act of maturing and the foundation of what love requires of us. Celebrate the days when the picture is perfectly clear, and oh so lovely when they fall on a holiday, but don’t lose heart or intention when the image is unrecognizable. Choosing love at those moments is the guts of what it means to be loved.
At our very best, we human creatures are universally imperfect. We all share some form of annoying habit, and equal measures of gifts and challenges. Although early in our courtships, our biology seduces us into believing that our beloved contains no faults. While this may be critical to the perpetuation of the species, it is misleading in the work of love. There is a strange irony in relating about how our greatest strengths become our greatest weaknesses and this unpredictable twist can often make what seemed a perfect partner become perfectly impossible.
Arriving at this juncture in our relationships makes you realize that love, in fact, is not blind. Developing the ability to hold the challenging aspects of our partners a long side the aspects we love is how we learn to see love as art. We commit to learn to see with a painter’s eye, by finding the essence of what is loveable and rendering the rest as background All men are tempted. There is no man that lives that can’t be broken down, provided it is the right temptation, put in the right spot. Quite true for the world we live in. It is temptation that Cocks coaxed MCA Sex We are a dog-unfriendly MCA And the Lord said: Let there be sexyent (Edit)
All men are tempted. There is no man that lives that can’t be broken down, provided it is the right temptation, put in the right spot. Quite true for the world we live in. It is temptation that Cocks coaxed MCA
Sex We are a dog-unfriendly MCA
And the Lord said: Let there be sexy and long penis Dr Chua Soi Lek fucks all races
his cheap hotel style gave him his most pleasure
A sex scandal often nails the coffin shut on a political career and few are able to rise above the dirt and re-invent themselves.
In Malaysia, where sex scandals are bountiful, one such political resurrection happened in the form of MCA president Dr Chua Soi Lek.
His rivals’ secret filming of his bedroom romp may have dealt his reputation a blow but his honest admission and political acumen ensured that he returned to the pinnacle of power.
More than four years have passed since that sordid DVD revelation compelled Chua to resign as health minister, the MP for Labis and MCA vice-president, casting him into political wilderness.
But the trained psychologist, who believes that the impossible is possible, refused to be defeated even when expelled from MCA and clawed his way back to the top, with the mandate of party members.
However, the father of three’s moral transgression continues to haunt him and provides fodder for his political opponents.
In cyberspace, whenever an article quoting him is published, the comments from readers will contain a string of unflattering remarks, including references to a particular sexual stimulant, about the MCA president with regard to the scandal.
But the seasoned politician has learned to take all of this in his stride.
Chua: I don’t hide
And when FMT popped the scandalous question during an exclusive interview yesterday, Chua who appeared accustomed to such queries responded in a flash.
In defending himself, the MCA president craftily launched a veiled attack on Opposition Leader Anwar Ibrahim, whose alleged sexual exploits with a Chinese prostitute was also captured on DVD.
He also made references to the infamous Lingam video on the fixing of judicial appointments.
Asked to what extent the scandal had affected him on the political front and its implications on MCA, Chua replied: I don’t know. But I know that I don’t hide. I don’t say that ‘it looks like me, sounds like me but it’s not me’.”
And in an obvious swipe at Anwar over his denials regarding the alleged sex video attributed to him, the MCA president continued: “I don’t go around saying that my stomach is smaller than what is in the video. I didn’t say that I have hidden my watch because I gave it to my wife.”
“I don’t do all those things. I said that it’s me. I made a mistake, I’ll apologise and I’ll go off. I hold on to the principle that I prefer to be defeated by the people at the ballot box rather than shameless, nameless people that tape your secret life. That is my final mental principle,” he stressed.
On that note, Chua said that it was an individual’s right whether to accept him or otherwise.
“If they can’t accept me, thank you very much, it’s your right. Nobody asked you to attend my forum. Nobody asked you to tune to the TV that has Chua Soi Lek’s face. Nobody asked you to vote for Chua Soi Lek in the party election or even in general election.”
“But I don’t hide and say that it’s not me, it sounds like me, the movement is not like me, my stomach is not that big, I have more hair, left my watch.. I don’t give all this crap,” he added.
To teach children coping skills, parents must hold themselves back from overindulging them emotionally or financially!
I remember standing outside the imposing school gates of Convent of Jesus and Mary, some loose change clutched in my fist, as I debated the pros and cons of buying some chikki or chilli chips. It was a serious consideration for a child, involving a thought for the hygiene factor, recollection of when I last indulged myself, the school’s admonishments about buying from wayside vendors, wondering if I could spend the money in a more useful manner, and whether my parents would approve!
What mattered was not the tiny amount in my fist; it was the thinking that went into spending it that I cherish today. Years later, I am just as careful about spending money. It is never a question of how much I can afford; and always one of whether I really need the object of desire. It doesn’t matter how deep my pockets are, what matters is whether what I buy is really worth the spend!
Somewhere deep down, one’s attitude to money has a lot to do with the values one imbibes. Selfless or selfish, caring or thoughtless, self-indulgent or generous – all this dictates your relationship to money. And when we pass on values to our children, a very important part of that transaction is attitude to money. Teaching them how to handle money through instruction, discipline or example, is an important part of bringing up children.
Today parents share a much closer, friendly bond with their children, which makes it more difficult to discipline them. It is easier to give in to the urge of indulging your children, rather than denying them a pleasure you can easily afford. Parents find it difficult to say no, whether it is the gift of a car, a motorcycle, a foreign trip or a wild party. The persuasive powers of children brought up on a diet of mesmerizing television commercials aimed to seduce, and video games that allow them to manipulate reality, are exhausting for parents already confused about where to draw the line!
Rather than risk long-drawn battles, parents tend to give in. They find it easier to bring up children in the cocoon of protection, rather than leave them frustrated and wanting. When indulging our children, we are also indirectly indulging ourselves.
However experience shows that if all the mollycoddling and indulgence keeps them ensconced in a delightful, unreal bubble, children will never be prepared for real life. So it is important to introduce them to realistic situations and allow them to make their own mistakes. Denial is as important as indulgence; kids must understand the difference between need and want, and learn to wait for what they desire. To leave scope for motivation and ambition, it is important to leave that little something they still need.
Young mom of two Monisha Bajaj says, “I make sure that I allow the children to get a little less than what they ask for because it is very important to teach them they cannot have all they want. That would surely spoil them!” Good thinking.
Bewildered parents brought up in leaner times, are eager to share their new-found prosperity and spending power with children, and find it difficult to draw lines and lay down rules. Even if they realise the risks of indulging a child’s every whim, they find it difficult to answer why friend Sanjukta can throw money around at the mall when their Kanika cannot. Why Parthiv is allowed his video games, Blackberry and iPad, while their Rakshit isn’t.
These are not easy questions for any parent to answer. Yet, intrigued at how other parents deal with their children, I threw a question at friends on my Facebook page:”Am sure you indulge your kids! How do you decide where to draw the line?” Many wrote back. Ratheesh V Sankar said, “Kids draw the lines these days” while Kumar Saurav agreed “Parents are just advisors!”
One way of giving children a realistic idea of their strengths and limitations is to talk straight to them, and make them understand that your denial is not a cruel whim, but a considered decision for their own welfare. Handling pocket money teaches children to make choices, take considered decisions, save and plan. Learning about money is indeed a critical life skill for children to pick up. However, this skill can be learnt only if they get a limited amount, dictated by their need rather than the parents’ giving capacity. Lachmi Bose, another Facebook respondent, says, “I love to indulge my son with gifts, but I always draw a line and make him understand that money does not come easily… or he will not have the drive to earn and do well in life.”
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